Raising the Orthodox Family: Playing for the same team

There is no better time than right now to reinforce the idea of everyone in the family being on the same team at home. We are all playing on this team by “helping each other out”, with the greater goal of peace and wellbeing. We can be a team with chores and household responsibilities. We can even be a team by helping our sister/brother if they can’t get their shoes on.

In our home, we strive for the “unseen hero award”, where, if something needs to be done for someone else, you do it without anyone knowing. This is all part of remembering that you are part of something greater than yourself. As Christ himself said in Matthew 6:3, “When you do merciful deeds, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand does.” The right thing should never be done because we want praise from other family members, but because it is good for our team.

We can even be a team by being a strength where we know there is a weakness. Parents, if your spouse is quick to anger, realize that more than likely, their needs are not being met and they are angry because they don’t know how to express this feeling. Give them a hug and help them to get in touch with what’s really wrong. Perhaps, you are a stronger communicator. If your spouse is better at “letting go” and relaxing when there is work to be done, let them lead you when they notice you need a break, instead of overpowering them with your control.

Utilize and recognize each other’s strengths, unique gifts, help where and when you can. When these things occur, your team, your family wins!

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