Healthy Minds, Healthy Souls: Why get so angry at the little things? 

It’s hard not to let the precious moments of our life be taken by trivial things. Some days it can just feel like a series of opportunities to get upset.

Today I spoke to a woman whose child I counseled 6 years ago. This time however, she was coming in for herself, she told me that her husband had just been diagnosed with a brain tumor and was given 12 months to live. Her world as she knew it was now, forever changed. “I can’t think about anything else. I am constantly crying and imagining myself alone,” she cried out in agony. As my heart broke for her, I imagined how much this woman would give, to go back to a time in her life when all she had were the silly aggravations of life; the forgotten homework, traffic that made her late for an appointment, kids that don’t clean up after themselves, or a husband who just came home grumpy. These situations were no longer a “big deal.” Isn’t perspective everything? Life can change in an instant.

Sadly, her story is just one of millions of people who are walking through life right now burdened by a heavy heart; affected by tragedy, existing in anxiety or living with an irreparable heart breaking situation.

Sometimes we forget that life is what we make it. It’s a series of moments that we choose our response to. Yes, we will all lose our cool at times, but even when we do, we still have a choice as to how long we stay upset.

Life is a treasure that we don’t want to lose sight of. It passes us by quickly. Don’t let it be hijacked by prolonged angst. Next time you get upset at the small stress that life brings, take a deep breath and redirect your soul. Remember the goodness that still exists amidst your stress. Remember that peace is only yours to give away. Have gratitude for who your children are, even when their behavior is frustrating. Have joy for the blessing of a spouse, even when his/her behavior gets under your skin. God is always with you just waiting to embrace you.

“Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.” (Psalm 62:8)

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